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Find out, why must men fear commitment and main reasons some commit to unappealing women?

2009-06-22T11:11:00.001-07:00

Nowadays, a good number of men developed fear of commitment. They not only fear commitment, guys commit when they have to; specially, the divorced ones. Most single men love their freedom; the option to be with many unique partners. Nevertheless, they do think—not too often, though—about their risk of being sexually with ill partners. This could be steady reasons why guys are afraid of commitment. Women have to understand that what attracts men about them are their looks and sexuality, not their love to cherish commitment. It is a sad but, ruthless truth. Most men will tend to be with women that weight the same or better than they do. Moreover, men tend to be with women that are as attractive as, or better than they are. Different causes trigger reasons you see men dating less-attractive women.

Mostly, the main basis some guys are in this individual relationship is when at one point their partner was the most alluring woman to them, and subsequently she let that go. She stopped caring about herself. This girl used to have big boobs, tight butt, and a lean weight. Nevertheless, kids appeared and she forgot roughly her figure. She began focusing on the kids, worrying more about her kids, then on herself. Therefore, as an act of kindness and love, these guys have learned to like their mate; not because she has a great body, but because she is the mom of their kids.

The other cause guys are in this presently particular relationship is due to the fact of one simple reason: money. Some guys are willing to invest their time with an unappealing woman because of her money. Since, women love to be court; unappealing women are not the exception. These men can be remarkably deceitful; they enchant these girls with superfluous stories, just to live out of their marriage commitment. Another reason why guys are committed to dull women are because of their low self-esteem. These guys believe they cannot have sexual relations with any other additional women to the one they currently have. Nearly everyone of them would rather stay intimate with an unappealing woman: instead of settling with a desirable, but an asexual woman.

Most men are always able to commit for one obvious reason: sex. There are no exceptions about it! Men love sex, no matter how sentimental, or attached men can be to women. If men do not get sex in their relationship, they will contemplate getting it in another place. That does not mean they will leave their relationship, but they will to it, in one way or another. In addition, it does not mean that they ought to cheat on their partner, neither. However, guys are able to find a way to satisfy their need somehow. Take sex out of men's livelihood, and they can be particularly creative as well as very aggressive: when they are used to having sex.

Depending on their age, their vitality and marital status, men will start shifting needs. Mostly, these shifts happen to most divorced-single men. They have already carried a negative baggage with their old marriage. Men fear commitment and they do not want to get into another chaos. However, they do wish for companionship. Sex is men's driving push to mate. Nonetheless, it is second in divorced men's need, while they are in a subsequent relationship. Nearly all divorce men feel alone, and they will like to have a company. On the other hand, they will think twice, if they have to sacrifice sex for it. Meaning, they will prefer to have a single healthy sex life, instead of suffering in a relationship with a nonsexual partner. Yet, neither they are likely to sacrifice money for sex, unless they are wealthy. It is unlikely that they planned to get into a commitment along with a woman that is coming across as wanting to live out of them, when they are in a financial stroke.

This depends most on men economic status. If men are financially stable, they may be more inclined to get a better sexual and more attractive woman; then if they are not financially firm. The more financially stable they feel, the better-looking woman they will find; however, the less they wish women to participate into their business. The rock conclusion on the way men feel regarding commitment is that they can be faintly shallow. Usually, they will never compromise sex for beauty, but some of them, particularly compromise sex, for money.

There is a Little Bit of "Gold Digging" in Most Women Today: Find Out Why

2009-03-30T13:49:00.001-07:00

This article explains the reason why most women behave they way they do in today's society. And why they tend to chose certain males over others. http://bit.ly/2ytUGU

2009-03-27T16:42:00.000-07:00

Learn How to Control Your Anxiety Approach
One of the most difficult things a man has to overcome is the fear of approaching to a female and talk to her. This articles explains what is the anxiety approach and how to overcome it.
http://www.associatedcontent.comarticle/1585563/learn_how_to_control_your_anxiety_approach.html

2009-03-20T07:05:00.001-07:00

Pick-Up Artist Community Finds Easy Targets in Buenos Aires
Following the hype of the popularity of the VH1 show "The Pick Up Artist," a new light has been shed on the previous underground practice of wooing women as a career choice. Here is my experience.
http://www.associatedcontent.comarticle/691137/pickup_artist_community_finds_easy.html

The secret to engage in a conversation with a woman!

2009-02-03T13:28:00.001-08:00

The majority of the time most problematic issue a man faces when meeting a woman is the approach. Most men have no problems going from the rapport build-up, to the courting phase. Nevertheless, the main problem most men face when they are “sarging,” is that they don’t know how to approach women!

One thing it makes sense to me is an article I saw from the TSB Magazine that talks about approaching techniques. 83 Pick Up Lines That Make it Easy to Talk to Girls. The article talks about the do’s and don’ts of the “social intelligent man.”

Begin a conversation in a way that is friendly and non threatening
Skillfully introduce topics that quickly build rapport
Talk in a way that shows that he is of high value
Never give the impression that he is trying to impress her
Never give the impression that he is intimated by her

Another thing that makes sense to me in the article, was that when you force a women to make an immediate decision as of to whether or not the man is right for her, 99% of the time she will decline! I think that this situation happens with every gender.

Men have a black and white mentality while women as a gray mentality. We think in ether yes or no terms, while women come with a “maybe.” When approaching a female, the best thing to do is to approach all of them with the same mind frame; “maybe.” The goal is to allow both of you to express yourselves as naturally as possible.

How can you both express as naturally as possible? For starters, as men, one will have to go in to the approach knowing that you will have an immediate objection. It is a normal human reaction, when someone is approached by a stranger, people tend to react defensively and give objections. The point is that when a male stranger approaches a female, there’s a natural reaction for the female to feel unease, unprotected. Most men don’t know how to react to that particular behavior.

You get what I called the “slippery fish” syndrome. One tries to grabbed them and they slipped away. Just like when you’re trying to catch a fish in a pond with your bare hands. The only way I know how to approach in a non-threatening tone to someone you will like to meet is by asking an open ended question, or come up with a statement that has nothing to do with what you are doing at that particular moment.

Open ended questions are open to possibilities. The goal to open ended questions is to engage in conversation. You are trying to make your target express her opinions and views about any simple “NON-THREATENING” subject. Statements that you make that has nothing to do with what both of you are doing at the time, are intended to work the same way.

Most men don’t know how to approach women. However, as men, one can be creative and make a few open ended questions of your own, as well as some good statements to engage into conversations with women, and that is the secret. You’ll be surprise what you can do. Most importantly, be yourself, come up with your own game, your own lines, practice makes perfect. I suggest not to copy anyone style. Gather the positive, and reject the negative from any style. Experiment with different lines. Until, you come up with your own ones. And always remember to document what works so you can be able to use it again. Be authentic!

What worked for me on a "Close Kiss"

2009-01-06T18:54:00.001-08:00

Here is what worked for me on a "Close Kiss". I tried going for what the book "The Game" was saying about you should asked for the kiss. I waited for the girl to looked at me, all romantic and I thought she was prepared, for me to kiss her. But it did not happen the way I expected.

At the moment she was looking at me, I asked her "Would you like to kiss me?" And she said "No." Then I asked her "Why not? I mean, it's just a little kiss." She said to me "I don't know you that well." My response to her objection was: "You don't need to know a person that much for just a little kiss." And then I added: "Lets do something." I pointed at my nose with my finger and said to her "Kiss me!" At that particular moment she was going to kiss my nose, I moved my chin forward and kiss her lips. That broke the ice. After that, she was all over me, kissing! Cool, isn't it? Two moves in one. Yes!

Neg the Target

2008-12-16T23:25:00.001-08:00

Neg The Target 2

Alright here is a better explanation on Neging the Target. I hope people out there like it. Neg the Target by Stunpals.com

Original Lyrics

Neg the target yes its true
Then talk to her friends you have to be smooth
DHV don’t look needy
That’s what you got to do to get the HB
And when she speaks say excuse me
You’re interrupting have some patience please
Is she always like this where’s her off switch
How do you roll with someone like this...

Click Here to see the video

Maxim Magazine (Nov 2008 Issue)

2008-12-16T22:33:00.001-08:00

The November 2008 Issue of Maxim Magazine had an article named "Build a Better Trap". It talks about 7 ploys about what females said what have worked for guys when dealing with and picking up gal's. The seven Ploys the article talks about were:

Ploy No. 1: Give her the "Neg"

Ploy No. 2: Have a routine

Ploy No. 3: Disarm your competition

Ploy No. 4: Call her right away

Ploy No. 5: Dress like Cock

Ploy No. 6: Hit on her friend

Ploy No. 7: Make her work for it

In most of this ploys I have something to say. There are some of them I would agree with, but most of them I would disagree with the authors findings. Starting with the first ploy:

Ploy No. 1: Give her the "Neg":

In this ploy the author says that every women that was interviewed despise the trick.

I can understand why every women despise the tactic of it. In my opinion the purpose of the "Neg" is to make the woman uncomfortable with your comments. I think that even if you're making your comments feel uncomfortable to her, she will stick to your comments. Even if she despise your comments and find you a jerk.

What you are trying to accomplish with the "negging" is to force the target to think about you. I once read in one of the Donald Trump books that "bad publicity is better than no publicity at all!" And in here you're using the same principle.

In my opinion, I would not try to offend the girl that I'm targeting, rather than that, I try to make her feel some what uncomfortable with my comments towards here, and it has worked for me.

Remember, this is a cat and mouse game. When you "neg" the girl out you're trying to play hard to catch. You're sending signals to the girl for her to play with you. And if you're attracted to her she will play along. If not you're out of luck!

And on that note, beware sometimes girls use their looks to scare off the majority of the guys for some reason. Leaving only those who dare to approach them; the AMOG's

Ploy No. 2: Have a routine:

The author explains in the article that having a routine might not work. And that humor when it's spontaneous can work.

On that note, I would disagree with the author because for starters, how does the author would expect to approach to a group of people, if one is not prepare and don't know what to say after the word "Hi".

Realistically, not all the guys are humorous, much less are spontaneous. So, are this guys doom to be alone for ever. I don't think so!

Being spontaneous with something that you think is funny maybe grounds for an insult on an other persons circle of friends. I think one have to follow a protocol. I'm not saying that one have to follow a routine over and over again, because people will eventually catch up to it. Nevertheless, by using the same protocol, the same concept with different openers just might do the trick. See "How to work a room" by Susan Roane. And also see Susan Roane Blog for more on that topic.

Ploy No. 3: Disarm the competition

The author says that is good to disarm the competition when picking up girls. I would say sometimes is good, and sometimes is a very bad idea!

For instance, if you're going to have a girl that she will always gets you in trouble expecting you to get her out of it, I would think it twice to be near her. In the same token, if you're saving her from someone she's obviously not into, then I would say maybe. If you're saving her from her boyfriend's ass-whipping, then I will say "Stay Away!" Nine times out of ten, when you intervene in someone else relationship as a third party, she might tell you to "bug off!"

Ploy No. 4: Call her right away

I totally agree with this ploy from the author. I would not waste time to call her either.

Ploy No. 5: Dress Like Cock

The author stress that is not convenient to dress like a "peacock."

I would definitely not go with the author's opinion on this ploy because one has to stand out some how! I'm not saying to go ahead and dress like a clown. However, one needs to be able to stand out one's uniqueness. One needs to create it's own avatar. A diamond is rare not because is a rock among rocks, it's rear because it's a rock that stand out.

Ploy No. 6: Hit on her friend

The author says that "hitting" on a girls friend is not a good idea. Because they always go with the "Bros before hos" concept. The author also say that "no girl ever wants to feel like she was the second choice." However, one needs to understand that when you are picking up girls you are working with attraction here. That means that you always will have 50% chance that the girl you're "hitting" on may or may not LIKE YOU! You are always playing the numbers when it come to girls. Some girls will like you and some girls wont. That is fact of life!. Is there is any type of attraction in your "target", she will find a way to get to know you.

There is an other old adage that says: "Treat the waitress like a lady and the lady like a waitress to win the lady's heart!"

Ploy No. 7: Make her work for it

Finally, the author talks about that you need to let the girl work for it. That statement can be no further out from the truth. No girls want to be considered boring or weak. And I use that to my advantage all the time.

Topics we'll cover and more

2008-11-06T12:01:00.000-08:00

Here are some of the topics I will be covering in this blog.

Some aspects of the book "The Game" by Nail Strauss; some of the aspects of what AFC's goes through in order to conquer his fear of social dynamics. I'm also going to be talking about the insights of the AFC.

Things like finding true love in a very superficial world.
Do you really want your feeling to show when meeting a girl?
Do you want to keep hiding your feelings forever?
Is it true that the nature of the scorpion (the woman) is there to sting you (the frog). In the book "The Game" there was an analogy that Mystery was giving to Style about the nature of the scorpion and the frog. More on that analogy later!
If you get stung how can you recoup from the injuries!
Can you or Can you not trust women sentimentally or with your feelings. Do you really have to be a bad boy to keep the women in check!
Is it true that loves comes & goes and you just have to accept it and be grateful that you experienced it even if it is once in your life time?
What would you prefer being in love or have sex? Remember now, the more promiscuous you are the better the chances you have to get a VD (Venereal Decease). Are you willing to run that chance?

These an other topics related will be discuss here! So check us regularly...